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Wanna Be a Good Boyfriend? Here Are Some Warning For You

If you get caught in an awkward relationship-threatening situation, such as doing *something* with another without really meaning it that way, don’t say “this isn’t what you think” or “this isn’t what it looks like”. Very cliched. Hold her hand, they will pull away, then look them in the eyes and tell them
you love them, and that they are the only one for you, and it really wasn’t what it looked like, then explain.

Never buy flowers for any other girl unless it’s her mother/grandmother.

Never cheat. It remains perfectly understandable that you’ll have wandering eyes, but realize where your heart is and stick to that. One time will be enough to convince someone to dump you.

Never hit your mate. Violence is unconditionally unjustified (and punishable by law in many countries). You can hit them teasingly; mates DO NOT like to be babied all the time and never be touched.

Never over-do something. Switch things around a lot and you’ll keep the excitement that builds a good relationship, though don’t be too inconsistent.

Never tell them they can not talk to their friends, even if they are guys. In fact, become friends with her friends. They will love you even more for that.

Give them space. They have friends, too, and don’t want to be smothered. See above point.

Try not to give them reasons to be jealous. Understand how your actions might look to them.

Do not push them to do anything physical with you. They will most likely let you know when they are ready.

Any boy can wait until someone is ready to do something physical, it takes a man to be chaste even when they don’t seem to mind. Don’t wait for them to tell you to stop: Ask them. “Is this okay?” is all it takes to make the difference between being the best boyfriend in the world and doing something you both will regret.

Don’t be too careful! A mate will appreciate that you are considerate of their limits, but they’ll also appreciate a little pushiness. Know them well enough to estimate what will and won’t be okay, and if they stop you or says “no” more than once, it’s a no. They’ll also enjoy you being just a little rough. Pick her up, push her against a wall, pull her hair a little bit. They’ll let you know if there’s something they don’t like.

Never hold their family’s actions against them. No one can help what their family does or says. You can share with them that it bothers you what someone might have done or said but leave it alone after that.

Try your hardest to do your part of forgive and forget and let it be. No one likes to be reminded of their mistakes.

Never forget their birthday or other events they will remember (e.g. Valentine’s Day,). Saying “Happy birthday” does not cut it; some girls expect gifts for every holiday. If you do not get them something they will remember, but if you do it continusly, they’ll think you’re cheap! Late is better than never. Cards are better than nothing!

Never tell them about something you almost did for them and then ended up not doing for whatever reason. Like saying ‘I thought about getting you this gift, but changed my mind’ or ‘I was going to take the day off work to spend it with you and then decided it was a bad idea’. They will not think you were thoughtful, they will think you decided they weren’t worth it. This is worse than an oblivious boyfriend, because it shows you know how to be romantic and what to do, but don’t find them valuable enough. These thoughts are definitely best kept to yourself.

Go their way but people don’t like guys who apologize and ask suggestions from them all the time. Sometimes it’s just okay lead the way.

Don’t embarrass them. Most people, especially if they are teenagers, get embarrassed if you talk about undergarments and things like that. Remember, those sorts of things may be attractive to you, but to them they may be something they don’t want to talk about. On the same idea, never tell a funny story about them without her consent, especially if they try to stop, you DO NOT CONTINUE. This will hurt their feelings, as it shows impressing your friends and making them laugh is more important to you than them not having to feel stupid.

Don’t try to be perfect, just try to be YOURSELF, and no one else. They’ll love you for that. If they don’t, then they’re not worth your time.

Don’t compare them to your ex mate; it will make them feel inferior.

Never cheat on her. This will make your relationship a lot easier