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Improve Your Body Language

You are certainly aware that the body has its own language. You’ve know it since you were an adolescent, when just the way someone looked at you, or winked, or smiled or walked, indicated that they were interested in making contact.

When we want to convince someone, we tend to make more use of our bodies - nodding the head, speaking quickly, gesturing with hands and arms, etc.

When we’re self confident, we speak more slowly, with less exag­gerated gestures. People of German, English or Scandinavian origin use gestures much less frequently when they speak. On the other hand, Latin people, as everyone knows, use gestures to accompany almost every word they utter.

If you are resisting an argument, you’re likely to cross your arms. If you want to think something over, you’d touch your forehead, or bite your lip or scratch your nose, etc. Each one of us has our reper­toire of little ticks.

The body language of people we listen to willingly, people who are charismatic and draw others to them, betrays no tension, no ner­vousness or anxiety - just relaxation and quiet reflection. These people radiate an aura of serenity and calm. When they want to convince someone, they use simple, studied gestures and speak in a warm, and usually bass voice.

Our bodies are constantly talking. That’s why, if you scored be­tween 11 and 15 points on the previous test, the message your body is transmitting is that you don’t feel good being yourself, that you don’t like your appearance, and that you suffer from an acute sense of dis­comfort twenty-four hours a day.

You’re certainly not going to acquire the magnetic personality you desire if you continue sending messages like those!