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Wanna Be a Good Boyfriend? Here Are Some Warning For You
Author: fiona
If you get caught in an awkward relationship-threatening situation, such as doing *something* with another without really meaning it that way, don’t say “this isn’t what you think” or “this isn’t what it looks like”. Very cliched. Hold her hand, they will pull away, then look them in the eyes and tell them
you love them, and that they are the only one for you, and it really wasn’t what it looked like, then explain.
Never buy flowers for any other girl unless it’s her mother/grandmother.
Never cheat. It remains perfectly understandable that you’ll have wandering eyes, but realize where your heart is and stick to that. One time will be enough to convince someone to dump you.
Never hit your mate. Violence is unconditionally unjustified (and punishable by law in many countries). You can hit them teasingly; mates DO NOT like to be babied all the time and never be touched.
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read comments (0)Tips on Becoming a Good Boyfriend
Author: fiona
Last wee, I’ve given some tips on becoming a good boyfriend. Well, here are some more!
Be accommodating. If there is something they like to do, but you don’t really like it, do it anyway, and don’t complain. You will probably find that you enjoy doing the activity because you’re with them.
Most guys are unaware, but most people love guys with manners. Hold the door for them, pull out their seat, and offer to pay sometimes (though allow her to pay if they are insistent).
Playing hard to get doesn’t work for most guys. Tell the person you love that you do and keep reminding them.
Most women have that time of the month. Be as supportive as you can because your mate might be grumpy and/or in pain but they want your love and you have to be there for them. Nonetheless, do not explicitly mention the time of the month to her -a woman hardly enjoys knowing that the world can tell.
Tips on Buying Home: How to Get a Good Deal
Author: fiona
Buy in the winter months.
There are good and bad times of the year to buy, and there are good markets and bad markets.
If you can, probably the best time of the year to buy your home is in December, preferably during the last two weeks of the month when everyone is fussing about the holidays.
Historically, there are fewer home sales between Thanksgiving and New Year’s (by a wide margin) than any other time of the year, simply because fewer buyers are out looking. Most buyers get involved with the holidays and put off home searching until after the New Year. The last few weeks of December traditionally have the poorest sales of all.
Most sellers who haven’t been able to sell their homes during the summer months feel the same way and remove them from the market after Thanksgiving. Often the only sellers who keep their homes up for sale (or list them at this time) are those who are desperate to get out. And if they haven’t sold by the end of December, those sellers are very desperate, indeed.
Steps on Becoming a Good Boyfriend
Author: fiona
1. Be honest.
Being honest to your mate is very important, in a mature relationship, honesty is the best policy. Tell the truth even when it hurts! It may be difficult, but the truth will allow relationships to breathe. No matter what happens, no one can ever challenge the fact that you are truthful, which might mean that the other person also gives you the same respect. If something doesn’t suit them let them know, otherwise they will not trust your opinion. But make it sound like a compliment. Suggest an alternative, and attach praise to the alternative. For example, if they ask you if you like something they are trying on (trying on, not already wearing at a party!) let them know that it might work, but you think the blue one is your favourite so far because it shows off their great (insert their best feature here—a feature that both of you like, not just you). Also, if they ask you, “Do you think I’m beautiful?” answer them honestly, but not rudely. If you think they are pretty, then say so, but don’t say ” You are ugly.”
2. Remember that girls are often raised to be much more emotionally oriented than men.
However, remember that unless your mate suffers from physical ailments that affect their mood, the mood swings that appear to be random for you may very well have significant reasons that you’re just unaware of. After all, your partner is an entire person, with a lifetime of experiences, associations and memories, and emotional expressions result from a combination of factors which they may or may not be aware of. The best thing you can do is not take it personally, and try to help them discover and understand why their mood has taken a turn for the worse.
Can You Rely on What the Home Lender Says?
Author: fiona
Yes.
And no.
Yes, in the sense that today lenders use highly sophisticated computer models based on hundreds of thousands of actual case histories to determine what makes a successful borrower. Where you ?t in that ?nancial pro?le determines the maximum amount that you can borrow. And if you ?t the pro?le of a successful borrower, chances are excellent that you will be one. On the other hand, if you ?t the pro?le of someone who’s likely to lose the property to foreclosure, then you might reconsider renting.
However, the one thing the computer and the modeling and the pro?ling can’t tell you is how big a monthly payment (and how big a mortgage and price) will be within your comfort level. For example, the computer may spit out that you can afford a $3000 monthly payment. But, you know from experience that making a house payment of more than $1500 would keep you from sleeping at night. Who’s right? You or the computer?